Remain Calm and Centered
- Think of a rock in the ocean—still while water flows around it
- The rock is centered, calm—the water is energy, activity, noise
- If the rock gives in to the water, it gets washed away, out of control and at the mercy of the ocean’s random action
- The rock can take energy from the water [qi-mana] without giving control to the water
Taking Control of Yourself
- Clearing away YOUR demons
- TAKE THE INITIATIVE
- Place yourself in a control IN THOSE ITEMS YOU CAN SHAPE OR CONTROL
- Much of your world will be outside your control:
- BUT you can still control YOUR REACTION TO IT
- Practice saying:
- “NO, I’M SORRY I CAN’T” to requests from both inside yourself and from others
- Be constantly alert and aware of your surroundings
- Be ready to deal both with he unexpected and the predictable
- This will also help you empathize with others
- Pause in a quiet place and feel your fingers—what is your body trying to tell you?
- Breathing exercises
- Even out your breathing
Breathe from your lower diaphragm—move your stomach to breathe, not your chest
- Remove distractions
- Sit or stand in a relaxed stance
- Imagine yourself Rooted to the ground
- Note your breathing
- Let yourself become aware of your surroundings
- What to you hear? Far away?
- What do you smell?
- What do you feel on your skin?
What is the quality of light that you see? What colors? What movement?
- What has worked for you?
- Why did it work—how was it useful?
- What hasn’t worked for you?
- Why didn’t it work?
- Build on your successes: what other approaches may work for you?
- How can you modify the successes to make the whole a better fit for your needs and goals?